Attachment is an important part of a child’s social development; John Bowlby’s Attachment Theory is one theory that we follow here at Tiny Toes Day Nursery.

His theory suggests that babies and young children need a strong relationship with their primary carer (normally their mother). He suggested that babies who did not form this bond might find it difficult to form relationships later in life.

His theory had a pattern of separation anxiety. He said there were three main stages. You have the Protest, which is when children may cry, struggle to escape, kick or show anger. Next is the Despair stage, which is when children have calmer behaviour almost like they have accepted the separation but they can be withdrawn or sad. However, they may also show comfort behaviour, e.g. sucking their thumb. The third stage is the Detachment, which is when children may appear to be ‘over’ the separation and start to join in the activities. However, this may mean that the child is trying to forget the relationship.

Here at Tiny Toes Day Nursery, we use a Key Person and Buddy system for the child to form an attachment within the nursery in order for them to settle. The Key Person is chosen based on the individual child; we are able to transfer the child between practitioners if they have a stronger bond with another team member. This is in order for the child to development to their highest potential.

Our parents or carers are made aware of the child’s key person and buddy for them to have first port of call with any questions or comments relating to the individual child’s development.

Our children at Tiny Toes are encouraged to explore and make friends with each other in all aspects of play and social times. We encourage all children to use the garden at the same time, for the social skills they gain off each other. We also encourage this in order for all children to be aware of different team members. This is in order to help with their transitions throughout the nursery.

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